Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist?
Truly the best question for screening out the scum on dating apps
I’ve started asking men on dating apps if they consider themselves a feminist. The responses have been…er…shocking. I guess I shouldn’t be shocked (but if I wasn’t shocked then I probably wouldn’t still be on the apps—optimism is a lethal bitch). Generally speaking, the results range from enthusiastically yes (a rare, very very rare response) to neutral (not really feminist but not overtly misogynist either) all the way to pure hate (the worst to read but when you think about how you could’ve ended up on a date with this psycho, the relief washes over you). Enjoy (my nightmare!)
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Is there anything more jarring than when a man offers up random answers to questions you didn’t ask in the middle of conversations?
I respect that I am a man is the hot take of the summer.
The second o in noo really sent me. Like that was an absolute choice.
Oh good, more men randomly answering questions I’ve never asked. Why are they so weird?! Instead of answering questions no one asked, why don’t you ASK HER A GODDAMN QUESTION YOU FUCKING IDIOT!
Do not be fooled ladies, when a man says I believe in equality he’s quietly telling you that he believes we’re already experiencing equality and he has no interest in making things otherwise. Run.
Beware of men who only believe women are people because they have women in their families. A good man doesn’t need a touchstone to believe women are people. (caveat—people like to message me to say “well this one isn’t that bad” and let me be the first to say this one isn’t that bad. I want more than not-that-bad, you can decide what you want). I’m just making points.
Look babe, being a feminist is the most basic of all the criteria. If he’s not asking questions, it’s an unmatch immediately.
If I’m being honest, Jay did the right thing by deleting his account.
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Better or worse? Does this man think rights are based on merit or that feminism is about the degree to which you think women are good and perfect? The stupidity I encounter on dating apps is truly intolerable. Final note: “Fairly equal”? Fuck off to hell, Glen.
If Dustin teaches us anything it’s that you should ask every man you know if he considers himself a feminist. Every single one. But also, “I like to fuck females” is *vomits all over the living room*
My answer...Yes I do. But it would be interesting to talk to you and see if you YOU consider me a feminist.
Of course I'm a gay male so I'm guessing we use different dating apps.
Welp. I now know what to do if I ever get back on the apps!